What just happens. Nothing happens just like that - everything goes on as usual! Is it true that nothing in life happens for nothing?
If you understand what and how is happening in your life, then the opportunity to change anything will not be a dream, but a reality.
Each person has his own philosophy of life, each person determines for himself the rules and norms by which he lives and what he believes in. However, thanks to my own life experience and experience professional activity, I can say that there are certain constant patterns in life. It doesn’t matter what kind of person he is, what he does, what he is looking for in life and what difficulties he has, these are the patterns.
Life is not a set of chaotic events, everything in life is interconnected, nothing happens for nothing, each event “pulls” another event along with it.
Do a little analysis of what is happening in your life and you will see that the first pattern “works”. A striking example is a breakup with a person or a sudden layoff at work, when something suddenly happened and you are trying to prevent these events, fight with all your might, but what happened happened. And it doesn’t even occur to you to think “why did this happen?” You worry and it seems like something terrible happened! Only after a while do you realize that without this event, something else would not have happened, that you would not have been laid off, you would have worked the same way and would not have decided to take another job, but now you are satisfied with both the salary and the team. If you had not broken up with this person, you might never have known great happiness with another person who is actually “your person.”
When this happens, you can hear the following from a person: “When we broke up, I was in despair, I was scared to live on, and today I feel terribly scared that I might never meet my husband and never know true happiness!”
There are many such events in our lives, when in the end, through events that upset and upset us, we come to what we really need. It’s just that at the moment when we lose something or something doesn’t work out the way we wanted, we don’t think “why did this happen?”, We try to “force” circumstances to turn out the way we wanted at that moment. Therefore, if you want to change your life, stop falling into despair if something doesn’t go as you planned, but think about why this is happening and what new things are appearing in your life. What needs to happen will happen when the time is right and when you are ready for it.
If you treat reality as “everyone is crazy” or “life is terrible”, then it is in this “mess” that you will “cook”. And no matter what you do, nothing will change until you change your attitude towards your surroundings.
An irritated and negatively disposed person will receive the same thing in response to his attitude, i.e. and the bus will leave from under your nose and a passerby will push you, and you will run out of movie tickets. And you can “fight” with the world ad infinitum until you change the prism of negativity to positivity. As soon as you leave the house with a smile and simply enjoy the colorful leaves, your day will turn out to be unusually successful!
If you want to change the world, start with yourself! Change your life, understand what is happening in it.
If you have any questions, our consultants, astrologers, fortune tellers, and clairvoyants will help you find the answers. Treat them with confidence.
Just for a moment. Take a deep breath. Feel your belly rise and fall, filled with life and oxygen. Feel the sweet and subtle release as you exhale.
Whatever is happening in your life, stop. Just for a moment. Take a deep breath. Feel your belly rise and fall, filled with life and oxygen.
Feel the sweet and subtle release as you exhale.
Feel your feet planted on the ground, the aliveness in your whole body. The sounds you hear inside and outside.
What are you feeling now? Is there tension in the head, jaw, throat, shoulders, chest, stomach, buttocks? How is the body positioned? Are there areas of compression, tightness, hardening, or pain? Are there parts that feel warm, light, tingling? Even if the mind is desperately trying to move forward, can you be here?
Can you respect the Present Scene of the Film of Your Life?
Let the present moment become exciting.
Be attentive to what is happening here-and-now; become aware of what is actually happening in the place where you are.
Throw away your conclusions about life, your dreams about the past and the future.
Get out of the idea of “what was” and “what could be” and begin to notice the sensations, feelings, thoughts, impulses that are present, right here and right now.
Let your real experience: sounds and smells become the most interesting dance in the whole universe.
Let awareness permeate the present moment, and let the moment permeate awareness.
This might interest you:
You observe, look, taste, touch the world as if for the first time. This is your Garden of Eden, your chaotic, intense, joyful, heartbreaking Garden of Eden. And you awaken to this: for a day, for an hour, for a moment - you finally awaken.
Coincidences are not accidental, nor are our teachers.
Many events happen in our lives. And they are all different - joyful and inspiring us to new things and achievements, or sad and sad, leading us to apathy and despondency.
The only question is - accidentally whether happen all events or does everything happen spontaneously, without any reason? Everything in our lives happens for a reason. Accidents are not accidental!
An interesting version of the case is put forward by the famous psychologist and journalist, teacher at the Faculty of Journalism of Moscow State University V.V. Shakhidzhanyan. Watch the video at the bottom of the article.
Every situation, every incident eloquently tells us many things, namely about what is happening to us at one time or another in our lives, what is happening here and now, at this moment in our long or short life, the duration of which directly depends on ourselves.
Only we extremely rarely listen to such prompts from the Universe, when we don’t like what is happening to us and leave everything as it is, without changing anything. What do we start doing most often? We begin to blame others, curse what happened to us, and scold chance. So what? - you might say. Nothing, we’re just moving away from ourselves all this time. If you don't care, you won't be interested in reading further. Only one who understands the fact that when you leave yourself, you constantly return to yourself is able to realize many things happening in his life. Let's move on.
Yes, you can get up and walk away from an unpleasant conversation, run away when 
the feeling of indignation flows over the edge, avoid people who are unpleasant to us. But why do we forget that we can’t get away from ourselves, we can’t run away, we can’t hide? You will still have to, sooner or later, turn to yourself.
We all like joyful and pleasant moments in life. This is understandable; moments of joy and happiness tell us that our soul is in complete balance with the world. The world tells us in these moments that we are who we really are and gives us spiritual harmony. But as soon as we don’t realize something, the Universe begins to send us accidents, which not random, which let us know that we are doing something wrong. But we don’t hear the voice from above, we don’t want to hear it and close ourselves off. Thus, and accordingly, yourself. This is characteristic of a person in critical situations. And we need to get away from this!
Otherwise, what do we have? We have a heaviness in our souls, which passes over time, as it seems to us. But this . The heaviness remains and, moreover, over time turns into a heavy burden that we can carry throughout our lives. Where will she go? After all, the owner of this burden does not try to throw it off, but continues to make it heavier with his negative thoughts directed towards a person, for example, whom, to put it mildly, he does not like.
Our teachers.
I don’t mean teachers at school, but those teachers that life sends to us. Well, firstly, we ourselves create our own world, forming our own worldview and based on this, we ourselves attract situations and people who become our teachers.
Our teachers, that is, the teachers in our lives are those who teach us life lessons that we try in every possible way to avoid. But everything in the Universe is interconnected. And exactly what (or whom) we run from is what we get.
Do we not like some of his qualities in a person or is his behavior annoying? What actually catches you? And what catches us is what we look for in ourselves. How else? After all, only what is in us is powerful. If we remain calm when interacting with a person, then everything is in order with our thinking.
Now many people understand this, but there are also those who do not accept it, justifying themselves. Of course, we should not consider the behavior of a person who is annoying as a complete copy of us (we are not clones), but only what “hooked” us. And this may not lie on the surface at all, but deep inside us, these are our hidden feelings and thoughts that we are afraid to admit even to ourselves. And in order to figure it out and get rid of it, we are given a chance by “giving” us the right teacher. So what are we doing? We run away from this incident, afraid to look into ourselves, and afraid of our own exposure. And nothing changes. But nothing goes away that easily. Problems and illnesses don’t just appear for us.
When we get angry and irritated with another, we vent 
these feelings on yourself. It's like pouring a bucket of slop over yourself. The only difference is that all this dirt, due to the inability to interact with others, and therefore with ourselves, ends up in our soul, slagging it. And if we continue in the same spirit, then we simply will not get out of this garbage dump.
This begs the question: Who is worse off from this? And the answer: Everyone! First of all, for us, then for our loved ones and for the entire Universe.
Here is a striking example "accidents" And teachers that we encounter in our lives every day. I often hear conversations like this. One person says to another: “We have such evil people in our city. They always snap and grumble. Wherever I go, I’ll definitely have a fight with someone.” And the other replies: “You know, I didn’t notice. Everyone always smiles at me. And no matter how I go into the store, the sales girls are so friendly, they will tell and show everything and always offer only high-quality goods. There are such smiling faces all around.”
And it is not by chance that we hear these conversations. They just tell us that the world can be looked at in completely different ways. And how exactly is up to us, or rather, each of us.
As soon as our goal is aimed at changing ourselves, and not another person, as soon as we learn to manage the situation we have created, and not be led by it, as soon as we learn to listen to the signs of the Universe, which periodically sends us the right people in the situations we need, the wheel of fortune will immediately turn to you.
And in the case when life throws up an unpleasant situation or a “difficult” person, we will learn thank the universe for the fact that she gives us tips on the path to perfection and SENDS WONDERFUL TEACHERS WITH WHICH WE CAN CHANGE OURSELVES AND CHANGE OUR LIFE FOR THE BETTER! Our enemies are the best teachers!
Let's remember that everything in our lives does not happen by chance, that Accidents are not accidental!
All the best to you, which means kindness in your soul, which will make you and your loved ones, the world around you and the entire Universe happy!
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Archive 12/15/2014
Dear readers, today I am finishing the “Recipes” competition Have a good mood", which took place on my blog. We meet the latest competition entries. And information from me to all the competitors: follow the news, one of these days in the very, very near future we will be summing up the results of the competition. Be attentive, stay in touch. And our readers have room for thought - after all, our participants sent so many recipes for a good mood. I hope we all feel positive.
Today I publish competition work from Nina Vilisova. It is called “Nothing in this life happens for nothing”, she participates in the nomination “Soulful recipes for yourself, your loved one, family and hearth.” Many of my blogger friends know Nina Vilisova very well. I myself often correspond with her, communicate and never tire of being amazed at the tenacity of this fragile mother’s character. Nina runs her own blog Healthy lifestyle, releases electronic journal"Bereginya", let's get acquainted with her work. I give the floor to Nina.
Nothing in this life happens for nothing
Hello dear readers! I probably won’t say anything special or wise in my article, but once again think about why situations happen to each of us in life in which we ask ourselves the question: “why?”, “why did this happen to me?” , we blame ourselves, those around us, our loved ones... Believe me, nothing happens to us in this life for nothing! This is my firm belief. Everything that happens is a lesson given to us that we must learn. If we do not pass it with dignity, it will be repeated until we solve it correctly. And if we still don’t understand something from this lesson, we can step on the same rake all our lives.
I want to tell you about my story, personal life experience. It so happened that I alone am raising four wonderful kids, one of whom has been sick since birth with such a serious disease as cerebral palsy and epilepsy. To be honest, we all had to go through a lot of good and bad. But this thought never left me, it seemed to always go ahead of me, and I saw it in capital letters - I am the most happy man on Earth and the Lord loves me, but I am so ungrateful... I grumble, become despondent, despair, swallow pills (yes, this happened before).
But it’s true: I’m not alone, ALL my children are with me (there are families in which, during a divorce, husbands take their children together from their wives), I wouldn’t survive this; also with a child who has cerebral palsy, there are children with the same disease who cannot walk or talk at all, and my child, even with some disabilities in the body - while he walks, runs, and enjoys life along with the other children.
And thirdly, in fact, the father of my children can live peacefully with us, because there, in another house somewhere, he still lives alone with his 14-year-old son, but, alas, it turns out that for more than a day He cannot be under the same roof with us. It takes him out of his seat like a demon, it becomes very difficult for him. Why is that? I've asked myself this question more than once. Or maybe this is God’s providence? After all, if he had stayed with us, our life would have been completely different, just imagine a family where the husband drinks alcohol every day without getting dry, there is a constant smell of alcohol and tobacco in the house, he chases his wife, and all this in front of four young children.
Out of naive love, I waited for 12 years, hoping that the time would come and he would finally want to stay with us, he wouldn’t behave with me like he did with his first ex-wife, everything would be different with us, because we love each other very much. Stupid and funny, isn't it? But seriously, there is still that bitterness and resentment in my soul for unfulfilled hopes. But now I have every opportunity to start living my real life - a new home, a new village, and I believe that these times will be better for us than before.
I have been blogging on the Internet for over 4 years now, and they regularly write letters to me here, asking where I find the strength to raise four children on my own?! Well, I think the moment has come to tell about all this.
What makes me feel good
Sometimes we feel apathetic, deprived of strength, unprepared for any activity. Perhaps there was a loss of something important, something that formed the basis of our idea of ourselves and of life. When dreams collapse, prospects break, each of us must realize one thing: everything happens for our good, personal growth and well-being.
1.Smile more often. It has been said more than once that a smile is like a vitamin, a medicine for health. A smile filled with good feelings inspires people to good deeds and business. What to do when, instead of smiling, you want to shed a tear? Don't hold back. When you feel bad and want to cry, it’s better to go to a place where others won’t see your tears and cry. There is no need to suppress an emotional cry. Tears help ease the state of mind. Tears bring cleansing.
And we should give a smile to those around us. What can a smile do to a person??? It lifts the mood of the one who smiles and the one to whom we smile. Strengthens the aspiration for good in the one who smiles and in the one to whom he smiles. Helps to establish people's trust in each other, makes it possible to establish close spiritual relationships. Helps to cultivate faith, hope, and love in people. A smiling person wins people over, makes them spiritually rich, heals their souls, possessing healing powers.
A smile influences the character of people, kills anger, hostility, enmity, hatred. A smiling person is a beautiful, healthy person. A smile is a mirror of health, remember this. Look at these smiles of sweet children, how happy they are, isn’t it true that your soul becomes light and joyful.
2. Physical education and sports are great for lifting your mood. IN summer time I really loved to shower myself in the morning and go for a morning jog. And in winter, I really like to ski. Since childhood, in school years I went to the ski section three times a week, and physical education lessons were always held on the ski track.
When the weekend or holidays came, home and her two younger brothers always went skiing in the forest for the whole day. It was very interesting to look and observe the amazing traces of forest inhabitants. I remember seeing fox tracks and walking for kilometers past various trees and bushes. It was an amazing time.
Now I’m trying to instill in my children a love of sports, physical education, and in winter - skiing and skating.
3. Delicious and healthy recipes to lift your spirits. The mood and condition of our body mainly depends on how we eat. You can increase the body's resistance to all kinds of diseases using simple and proven folk remedies.
a) Be sure to make it a rule to drink a glass of boiled warm water every day on an empty stomach with the addition of freshly squeezed juice from half a lemon and a tablespoon of honey. This drink cleanses the body and gives you energy and vigor for the whole day.
b) Especially in winter and spring, be sure to take a vitamin mixture. It has a beneficial effect on the entire body and strengthens memory. It is prepared like this:
Take 200 g of dried apricots, figs, walnuts, raisins, prunes, lemon and a glass of honey. Grind dried fruits and lemon through a meat grinder (be careful not to get any seeds), add honey, place in a glass jar and keep in a cool place. This mixture can be consumed one tablespoon in the morning and at night every day.
Eating lemon will restore digestion and disturbed microflora in the intestines, strengthen the immune system, add strength and energy to the body, strengthen bones, nails and hair, and improve skin condition. This vitamin mixture of dried fruits was recommended to my son and me during his illness many years ago by a very good neurologist. Since then, every winter I prepare it for future use, and not only for a sick child, but also healthy children gladly take it instead of sweets to maintain immunity.
c) You shouldn’t forget about yourself being beautiful either. After all, if you look at yourself in the mirror and like yourself, that already means a lot. Involuntarily, the mood rises. For these purposes, I will share with you my favorite women's miracle medicine for rejuvenation.
A miracle mixture of honey, garlic and flaxseed oil
This magical composition helps cleanse the body of toxins, instills good spirits and health in a person, smoothes and refreshes the skin, burns fat, improves metabolism in the body, enhances hair growth and even restores its original color, fighting gray hair. Preparing a miraculous composition is quite simple.
For 1 kg of honey you need to take 180 grams of flax oil, 4 small lemons and 3 medium-sized heads of garlic. A couple of lemons should be peeled, the other two are used with the peel. Garlic and lemons are ground in a meat grinder or blender, then mixed with butter and honey. The mixture is stored in a tightly sealed container in a cool, dark place. Consume shortly before meals, about half an hour, a tablespoon. A month after you start taking it, you can take a break for a week, then start “rejuvenating” again.
4. Being stuck in a state of grief and apathy is dangerous for the individual, who actually stops living and fully developing. Therefore, you need to find yourself a hobby, something you like, something that would bring you joy, and devote yourself to it. It is known how an interesting hobby can cheer up a person, fill him with new meaning, and help him re-believe in himself and his strength.
When I was overcome by fatigue in the summer, I had to do a lot of things in the gardens and around the house with one hand, and other times simply out of a feeling of loneliness, pain and resentment towards someone, at such moments I went to my bees or simply went into nature to hug birch tree You know how great this helps, to forget past bitterness, gain strength and energy. Everything seems to be clearing up in my head.
5. If all the ways to put yourself in order and lift your spirits have been tried, but your soul remains the same not calm and some kind of blackness, then the best way helping yourself is helping other people. Start helping those in need. These could be charity events, performances, assistance to orphanages and the disabled. Start with those who are nearby, whom you see every day, start with your loved ones! Take care of your parents, your own children, let them have enough for happy life. If possible, help financially. But even if this is not possible, only sincere love can perform miracles and heal wounds. Give them your warmth and affection, show love with generosity and selflessness. The meaning of life will immediately return, even after experiencing a very great loss, as soon as you begin to take care of those around you. You will thereby help yourself cope with the enormous feeling of fear, anxiety and uselessness.
