“Triple Wisdom” by Rami Blackt. Review of Rami Blackt's book “Triple Wisdom” Remy Blackt triple wisdom
Greetings, dear readers! Today’s post is unplanned for me, or rather it was in the plans, because in an earlier one I promised to write a review of the book that I was waiting for in the mail, I waited quickly, after 7 days the book was in my hands, but I still couldn’t write a review , this is a very hectic time in my life right now))). But today, with the kind encouragement of Nina Vilisova, I decided that promises need to be kept, better later than never.))) Thank you, Ninochka, for encouraging me to write a review. By the way, here is a photo of the book itself; it must be said that it is quite voluminous, 636 pages. I gave the second book, which I wrote about earlier, to my parents to read, so it hasn’t made it into the frame yet. 
So, book "Three Wisdoms" consists of three books.
The first is “10 steps to happiness, health and success.” As the title suggests, in this book the author describes these ten steps. At the first step, the author writes in detail about the importance of goal setting, that a person should have goals at all levels: physical, intellectual and spiritual, and specific practical recommendations are given on how to set goals correctly.
The second step talks about how to learn to listen to your heart (soul), what is the cause of a person’s suffering, and that your thoughts today create your tomorrow.
The third step talks about how to find your purpose in this world and live in accordance with it, why it is important to serve and who.
The fourth step will tell you how to overcome apathy and where to get energy.
The fifth step, in my opinion, is one of the most important, this is a story about the basic law of the universe; if a person does not live in accordance with it, then suffering inevitably comes. The importance of the ability to accept gifts, the great power of unconditional love.
The sixth and seventh steps will tell you how to survive in difficult conditions and at the same time become even happier and wiser, how to get rid of negative feelings and bad habits.
In the eighth, ninth and tenth steps, the author writes about the purpose of diseases and ways to get rid of them, why illness is a lesson, the causes of diseases, the main postulates on the path to recovery, practical recommendations for severe stress, how health and material well-being depend on speech , the power of gratitude, why complaints lead to illness.
This is, perhaps, a very short announcement of the book, because you yourself understand that it is impossible to write about everything in one article, and why, it’s more interesting to pick up the book yourself and read it, then there will be much more benefit and pleasure. The book is worthy, I really liked it, it gives a lot of practical recommendations, and not just theoretical knowledge.
Some quotes:
“I don’t know what your fate will be, but one thing I know for sure: only those of you will be happy who will seek and find the opportunity to serve others.”
“The constant feeling of happiness lies in continuous efforts to achieve one's goals and steady progress towards the goal of life.”
“If you can’t find anything worth dying for, then you don’t know how to live.”
“The world is not logical at all, not reasonable. Fight him with his own weapons: when doing something good, do it without any special reason.”
“The one who criticizes us gives us his positive kata and takes away our bad one.”
“The more selfishness and envy we have, the harder it is for us to speak well of someone.”
Next book “The alchemy of communication. The art of hearing and being heard". Since I have read many books related to speech and the art of communication, there was nothing new for me in this book, but it was very useful to refresh my memory. For those who are interested in this issue, there is more than enough information in the book and, again, a lot of practice, the main thing is to carry out this practice.
“If people around you can’t hear you, fall on your knees and beg for forgiveness because, in truth, it’s your fault.”
“It is very important to avoid words such as: always and never in your vocabulary. This is a violation of the subtle laws of the Universe. After all, in this world, on the one hand, there is nothing eternal, and on the other, nothing is impossible - therefore, sooner or later these words necessarily come into conflict with reality.
“It is very important to understand that true listening excludes an indifferent and biased attitude towards the interlocutor - it is a process that requires dedication.”
Book "Fate and I" It is not similar to the two previous ones, since in it the author cites letters from real people to him asking for help to solve some problem, give advice, etc. And for each letter the author’s answer is given, what needs to be done, what to do in a given situation, and for some the author gives specific practical recommendations. How can a book be useful for you and me? The stories from the letters can be very similar to ours, and thus we can find answers to questions that, perhaps, have been haunting us for a long time. Therefore, the book is also worthy of attention and conscious reading.
1. The Bible, Bhagavad Gita, Upanishads, Torah, Koran, as well as books of great and authoritative teachers of Sufism, Buddhism and Kabbalah.
2. Eckhart Tolle “The Power of Now.”
2. Books by David Frawley, MD, primarily Ayurveda and the Mind and Ayurvedic Therapy.
3. Books by S.N. Lazarev “Diagnostics of Karma” 1-12.
4. Books of Sivananda Swami.
5. J. Murphy “The Power of Your Subconscious”
6. Rudiger Dahlke and Thorvald Detlefsen. “Illness is like a path. The meaning and purpose of diseases."
7. Usanin A. “Pass into the third millennium
If you, dear reader, have a desire to also read this book, I recommend purchasing it at an affordable price, like me in the ozon.ru store
Bias closes the Truth from us.
The art of dialogue is the ability to speak the language of the interlocutor.
Ilya Shevelev
The interlocutor will immediately turn into an attentive listener, and your dialogue with him will be constructive if you take into account his motivation, state and environment.
Therefore, before entering into any dialogue, please think about how important and interesting it is for your interlocutor.
If you need to convey certain important ideas to someone, first you must create motivation, interest, prepare the person or audience - only then can you give knowledge.
Did you notice what I did in the introduction and first paragraph of the book?
Now let's look at the next important point...
We tend to ignore those with whose opinions we disagree.
Learn to listen and you can benefit even from those who speak poorly.
Plutarch
The more stupid a person is, the more clearly this manifests itself. We often ignore those we don't like or respect, even if they say important things. The opposite is also true - if a person doesn’t like you, he doesn’t respect you - will he listen to your words?
When listening, it is important not to turn on mental filters, not to show an overly emotional attitude based on personal antipathies - after all, we may be told extremely important things, but due to a biased attitude towards the speaker, we may not hear them.
For example, I recently talked with a successful businessman. He listened very carefully and continued to listen, even though some of his ideas were completely refuted by me. He listened and accepted what he heard. A month later he called me and formulated on which issues he accepted my point of view and on which he did not. This is a successful person: he always listens, evaluates, and even if he disagrees with something, he does not immediately reject anything, does not enter into an argument, but simply says: “Okay. I’ll think about it, I’ll stick with it.” He is a bright extrovert, but he has the ability to listen like a very good introvert. He says: “I have a different point of view. But okay, I’ll think about it.”
If you come across a smart person, listen to him. Having learned to treat what you hear with an open mind, you can learn and understand a lot; a person can say very important, reasonable things. Try to turn off your mental concepts, hear your interlocutor - after all, for some reason God sent him to you?..
The other extreme is to completely accept everything said by the person you respect, love, and admire. Try to remain objective.
Do not make yourself an idol!
In order to hear, it is important to maintain contact with reality, to be “here and now.”
And vice versa: in order to be “here and now”, you must be able to hear.
One of the indicators that you have fallen out of reality is that in the process of listening you begin to remember something: “Yes, he is saying the right thing. It was the same with me!”, you think about your own thoughts and “fly away” from the present moment. You are no longer listening to the person - your consciousness is not “here and now.”
If you get involved in a useless argument or start making excuses, this is simply a waste of time, and often self-humiliation. Why argue, justify, prove?
As soon as you see: a person lives in his own reality, is not ready to open up, listen to you, be sincere - leave him. But at the same time, you have the right to voice your opinion. If your interlocutor’s condition allows you to do this, calmly speak out without putting pressure on him.
Barriers to listening
One of the main problems of communication: we hear what we want to hear. This especially applies to women, and you have probably encountered this problem more than once in your life.
A woman's perception of the world is generally less logical than that of men. Women are more likely to create “locks” in their minds, a kind of mental template, and hear only what matches them. Therefore, women need to be especially clear about what you mean.
For example, in response to a woman’s declaration of love or marriage proposal, you should clearly state your attitude towards her and your plans. Moreover, it is very desirable that she repeat what you said, and you make sure that she heard and understood everything.
Many times I have consulted women, quite intelligent and reasonable ones, who were making serious plans for life with a man who knew nothing at all about it and had completely different plans.
And once in Ukraine I advised a man who was very concerned about his relationship with a woman. He was sure that she wanted to be with him all her life, and was ready to take responsibility for her children from her first marriage. When this woman came the next day, she asked questions that were completely unrelated to this man, and only casually mentioned that this was a long-past stage of her life.
This problem applies not only to intergender relationships. The more strongly we are attached to any paradigm (idea, outlook on life, etc.), the less inclined we are to listen to arguments that refute it or even slightly contradict it, and, accordingly, the more susceptible we are to any word - even somehow confirming it.
We often hear what we want to hear. This can manifest itself both negatively and positively.
If a person loves sweets, flour, cigarettes, meat, and so on, then he can ignore thousands of articles and programs about how harmful it is, but he will definitely find and remember some statement that this is supposedly acceptable.
Biased listening occurs when we treat the interlocutor with prejudice: “Speak, speak, I already know that. I know this Petrovich, but what can he tell me?” A prejudiced attitude towards the speaker or anything at all is one of the problems that hinders our spiritual and material progress...
PRACTICAL TASK
Think and tell me what problems in the field of spiritual and material development can lead to biased listening?
Eastern psychology claims that every day, every minute we must begin our lives as if anew. Perception must be updated, as sharp as possible. Every time we must meet and see off a person as if we were seeing him for the first and last time.
Every day, hour and minute, some changes occur in this world: in nature, in relationships, in people. And we need to notice them: say, to see how the trees bloom on the street we have been walking along for many years. Usually we don't notice this. To see this, you need to live “here and now.”
This is how children live - the world is always new to them, every day and hour they make small discoveries: “Mom, look at the flower!” Mom: “Go faster! We’re late for kindergarten!” This attitude of adults over time blocks the child’s freshness of perception.
It often happens that people who are prejudiced against convey important signs to the interlocutor, provide information that can save his business or even his life. However, they are simply not heard; what they say is deliberately ignored. “Well, what can neighbor Vaska tell me that’s so smart?” God speaks to us every moment, but we do not hear His promptings, we close ourselves off, hide from Him behind our stereotypes, live like mechanisms and lose the ability to perceive life in all its beauty.
Emotions greatly influence your ability to listen. It is better not to start a conversation if you are in the grip of strong emotions - such communication will not bring any benefit or pleasure. Learn to remain silent, not to get involved in an emotional altercation, and avoid such conversations.
Learn to be “here and now.” When you are in reality “here and now”, you are calm. If your interlocutor is overwhelmed by emotions, he needs to let off steam, and you must calm him down, help him come down from a high level of emotional excitability to a lower one. Helphim to return to reality, but at the same time try not to be “infected” by his mood.
Remember: the situation is controlled by the one who is able to rise above emotions, is able to monitor them and, therefore, not fall under their power.
Parable.
Cricket in New York
An American man was walking with his Indian friend along a crowded street in New York. The Indian suddenly exclaimed:
- I hear a cricket.
“Are you crazy,” the American answered, looking around the city’s central street crowded with people during rush hour.
Cars were scurrying around everywhere, construction workers were working, and planes were flying overhead.
“But I really hear a cricket,” the Indian insisted, moving towards a flower bed laid out in front of a quaint building of some kind of institution.
Approaching the flowerbed, he bent down, parted the leaves of the plants and showed his friend a cricket, carelessly chirping and enjoying life.
“It’s amazing,” the friend responded. -You must have fantastic hearing.
- Not really. It all depends on what you're in the mood for,” he explained.
“I find it hard to believe,” said the American.
“Well, look,” he said and scattered a handful of coins along the side of the sidewalk.
Passers-by immediately turned their heads and reached into their pockets to see if they had lost money.
“You see,” the Indian’s eyes flashed, “it all depends on what you’re in the mood for.”
Different roles of the listener.
…the ability to have a conversation requires few words. Much more is the art of pauses.
Z. Yuryev
“Malingerers” is the most common role. They pretend to listen very carefully, but in reality their thoughts are far away. Often this type manifests itself in the other extreme - it pretends that what is being discussed is very interesting to him, or pretends to be a great expert on the topic raised, filling the discussion with small details.
"Addicted"- people are very dependent on the opinions, desires and feelings of others. Often they are in the position of “I’m not okay.” They listen with their mouths open, thus wanting to gain appreciation and respect.
"Interrupted"- those who do not really allow the interlocutor to speak out. For example, people thinking about their own things, being in their own reality, or wanting to change a topic that is unpleasant to them. These could be simply impatient people or people with low standards of behavior, high self-esteem, etc.
"Self-absorbed"- these are ordinary egoists. This style is more typical for introverts. An introverted egoist is a person so absorbed in himself that he no longer wants to tell anything. He practically does not hear the interlocutor, he is completely in his dreams.
"Intellectual logician" - this style is even specially taught in the West. This type manifests itself “in all its glory” when what he hears somehow conflicts with his logic. For example, you tell him something, and he seems to be listening to you, but as soon as he “gets caught” on some detail that falls out of his harmonious picture of the world, he immediately stops listening to you. Or another problem: the speaker shares his emotional experiences, and the listener perceives what is said solely through the prism of logic and reacts accordingly, which can hurt the feelings of his interlocutor.
It's important to see the big picture. Spiritual life has shown me that there are things that do not obey the laws of logic, that are beyond its capabilities.
A person who tends to think logically is like a computer - he freezes if something does not fit with his program. It is believed that the mind of such a person is so busy with calculations that it does not allow the body to experience the act of communication on an emotional level. As a rule, logicians neglect non-verbal aspects. But a person is not a machine, not a computer, but a soul, and it exists on a level that surpasses all logic. Behind everything that happens in this Universe is Divine logic, and it cannot be measured by the yardstick of human logic.
Plus, there are physiological and physical parameters that need to be taken into account: time of day, speed of speaking, temperament of the listener. Introverts are able to listen long and carefully, this is not a problem for them. But extroverts find it difficult to listen for a long time if a person speaks slowly and measuredly. It is believed that the average person speaks about 200 words per minute. But the brain of a listening person easily processes 300-500 words per minute. These are statistics from English researchers. I think that in Russian speech fewer words are pronounced and processed because words in Russian are longer.
Consequently, nature arranges it in such a way that a person has time to comprehend and summarize what he has heard. But if the listener is preoccupied with himself, impatient, or in a state of emotional tension, he cannot hear.
The conversation takes place in the evening, when the listener is tired, listening will also not be effective, so at this time it is better not to conduct important negotiations or make important decisions.
And if some kind of conversation is forced on you, it is best to offer to reschedule it for another time. It’s not for nothing that people say: “The morning is wiser than the evening.”
Another important point: pay attention - everyone understands words in their own way. The average person typically uses about 500 words in their speech. Each word can be represented in different meanings - on average about 20-25, that is, in the end there are approximately 12,500 different meanings.
If you take some quite ordinary word, for example “table”, and ask different people to tell you what they mean by it, it turns out that it evokes at least 25 different associations... And so with almost any word.
Therefore, in order for the mutual understanding between the interlocutors to be as complete as possible, it is important to define the concepts and summarize what has been said.
The following psychological experiments are very common: one person enters a room where another person tells him a story with specific facts, logic, and a clear timeline of events. Then the narrator leaves, the next participant in the experiment comes in, and the previous listener retells this story to him - the way he understood and remembered it. Then the narrator comes out again - and so on up to ten repetitions. Often, as a result of such a “damaged phone,” the last person to enter the room hears a completely different story. Why does this happen? One person understated something, missed some detail, another replaced the word with its synonym, introduced his own emotional accents - and as a result, the whole meaning of the story changed. At the same time, everyone tells “their” story quite seriously, confident that they are repeating what they heard almost word for word.
To prevent such situations from arising, you need to summarize the conversation, ask questions: “Did I understand correctly that you want to tell me this and that? Did it happen like this?”
This approach helps the interlocutor better understand what he is saying and makes him grateful, since he sees that you respect him, are trying to understand and accept him.
It is also useful, after telling something, to ask your interlocutor clarifying questions to make sure that he understood you correctly. This must be done when, for example, you explain how to get to a certain place, or give a person information in which details are important.
I have witnessed situations several times when my assistants in organizing consultations and trainings explained to people in great detail when and where they need to come, what the cost is, but in the end people confused everything and understood it in their own way, some even insisted on what exactly That's how it was explained to them. I began to selectively check the assistants myself and saw that they explained everything correctly. Then I recommended that they insist that people write everything down and repeat what they heard at least once. This made it possible to practically eliminate all such problems.
In the process of communication, a lot of nonverbal information is transmitted. Even silence is also communication. In the East, this is one of the main ways of communication.
Silence when hearts communicate is a higher level of communication. When two lovers walk silently, they have one silence, but silently, with hatred, two sworn enemies look at each other - they have something completely different.
A properly paused pause can influence a conversation much more than any words spoken. When you learn to “read” silence, you will advance many levels in the art of communication.
Words carry almost no information.
Where there are few words, they have weight.
William Shakespeare
The most important factor in listening is the perception of nonverbal messages.
As a result of many years of research, the famous psychologist Albert Mihrabyan came to the following conclusions:
Can you imagine how important non-verbal communication is? If you only hear words, you can say that you hear nothing at all.
You always need to look at what is behind the words. Moreover, it must be borne in mind that when people say one thing, they often mean, sometimes unconsciously, another.
A lot of information is conveyed through facial expression. When people talk about feelings, it is imperative to observe facial expressions, changes in complexion, gestures and especially body language.
Facial expressions: movements of the lips, mouth, eyebrows, cheeks - can provide valuable information about what is happening inside a person. You need to learn to recognize facial expressions that hide tension, doubt, trust, inattention, etc. This helps a lot in communication.
PRACTICAL TASK
Sit down behind a glass door at an airport or any other similar place and watch how people talk, walk, and watch their facial expressions. Or turn off the sound on the TV and just watch it. Or watch a silent movie.
There is an interlocutor in front of you. First, get used to his image, facial expressions, movements, feel how he says what he wants to express - you will learn much more about him than if you just listened to the words.
An important skill that helps in perceiving feelings that are not expressed in words is the ability to listen to the emotions conveyed by the speaker's tone of voice. If you learn to understand tone (which, in general, is not so difficult), you will easily determine the internal state of a person and understand him much more deeply.
Tone can reveal psychological attitudes that are key to understanding how to communicate with this person. It is the nonverbal aspect of the act of communication, largely unconscious, and difficult to manipulate or intentionally distort.
Listen to the tone the person speaks. The tone will reveal what is going on in his subconscious. In the special services they teach you to “read” eyes. The eyes give away a person: by the movement of the pupils you can understand what he is thinking about, whether he is deceiving or not.
Benjamin Disraeli
Manner of speech, timbre of voice and tone - all this also reveals a person’s unconscious mood. The voice immediately reveals a person with mental problems. The sound it makes depends on its internal state, on its subconscious programs.
By changing the tone of your voice, you can change your destiny - because in this way you influence your unconscious. If you consciously want to become more decisive, then you need to speak confidently, boldly, clearly, because insecure people have an insecure tone.
For them this happens unconsciously, they are simply unable to speak differently, they do not have the energy for this, everything shrinks for them, it is as if they are internally screaming: “I’m not okay.” So always watch your tone of voice.
It is imperative to work with your voice. That's why in my trainings I sometimes ask people to growl (or sing something, or shout, etc.). Those who are unsure of themselves squeal instead of growling, while those who are confident, on the contrary, growl if you ask them to squeak. Each level of consciousness corresponds to a certain frequency, which, in turn, has its own level of sound vibrations.
Someone might say that a person can manifest himself differently in different situations: for example, at work he can be more confident than at home. The answer is simple: The lower the level of consciousness, the more a person depends on the people around him and circumstances. However, an advanced person has a certain inner core, thanks to which it is not he who changes, but the people and circumstances around him. On the other hand, we must take into account various situations, the emotional state of other people and behave appropriately.
A skilled listener hears more than just words. He perceives intonation, rate of speech, timbre of voice, tone. What will the voice say if you stop listening to the words and pay attention only to the tone and intonation? Remember, for example, the above case with Chaliapin.
Some people don't know that they have a bad tone. It happens like this: a person walks into a room and his appearance makes a very pleasant impression, but as soon as he opens his mouth, it turns out that he has an unpleasant tone of voice, and the whole impression spoils.
Unpleasant speech has a repulsive effect on people. Everyone needs to repeatedly listen to their voice in a recording, ask others for their opinions about their speech, tone....
PRACTICAL TASK
Try to practice the following: stop making words so important. Turn off the perception of the meaning of what was said and try to observe how the person speaks, what his tone of voice is, what his intonation, facial expressions, and speech are. What's behind all this?
Look him in the eye and clarify.
When we listen at the first level, we receive the highest quality information and can influence the situation most effectively.
It is important to use verbal feedback - ask the person questions: “What?”, “How?”, “Where?” etc.
We listen to the person, observe him, and here it is very important to ask clarifying questions in time: “Did I understand you correctly?”
When you communicate with psychologists or high-class teachers, they, paraphrasing what you said, always ask: “Did I understand you correctly?” or “Do you want to tell me such and such?”
Try to practice feedback in your communication - this is very important. Firstly, respect for the person who is trying to understand you arises automatically.
Secondly, This is the only way to figure out what the interlocutor really wants to say.
Third, This is how you help a person understand himself, understand his true motives.
Most people communicate using a vocabulary of 500 words. Their combinations are basically some kind of automatic phrases, platitudes, in which there is no special meaning. In our civilization, people, unfortunately, live a difficult and difficult life, and their thoughts are quite primitive. Eastern psychology says: “A person should think loftily and live simply.”
It is advisable to listen with understanding, without criticism, relaxed, looking into the eyes of the speaker.
If you listen to a person tensely, he also begins to tense up. The emotional background from this greatly increases and various kinds of “interference” begin. You can only truly hear and understand a person when you are in a relaxed state.
This is especially important if your interlocutor is experiencing some kind of grief, is experiencing stress or is depressed. By maintaining a state of internal relaxation, you can bring a person to a peaceful and happy state in 5-20 minutes. All you need for this is to listen to him correctly.
This is why it is so important to listen with understanding, without criticism. A person cannot be criticized even in his mind. For example, a friend tells you something interesting, and you look at her and think: “What a ridiculous dress and stupid makeup!” or “What you say is interesting, but it would be better if you repaid the debt to me...” At a subtle level, there is immediate rejection of this person, your connection with him is broken, and the speaker develops unconscious aggression towards you. At the subconscious level, we know everything about each other and feel everything.
It's important to make eye contact, but it can be difficult. Why? If you are interacting with a member of the opposite sex and looking into his (or her) eyes closely, this can become a problem, especially for men. If a man looks into the eyes of a pleasant, attractive woman for a long time, then usually involuntarily, through a subtle connection, lust turns on. This is a minus.
I noticed that people who are engaged in spiritual practice, teachers, having met a woman’s eyes, immediately look away - they look higher or to the side, trying not to pay attention to the face and body. Because a man is a lump of butter, and a woman is a hot frying pan.
Therefore, it is better to look your friends and girlfriends in the eyes. Eyes are the connection of the heart. If a person is not above you spiritually, if he is irritated or aggressive, then you should look at the bridge of your nose so as not to take negative energy from him. But there should be periodic eye contact in any case, because by the eyes you “read” a person, see him and, most importantly, establish a connection with him, because the eyes are the mirror of the soul.
Very often, people who look down or look away during a conversation are either deceiving, insecure, or afraid of you. By where a person's gaze is directed and how his pupils move, you can judge whether he is telling you the truth or a lie.
If you don’t like the look of your interlocutor, it’s “difficult” for you, it’s better not to look into his eyes. But sometimes it is necessary to “hold” the gaze, even if it is not very pleasant. Having “withstood” the gaze, you can already win. Most animals don't engage in combat; they simply approach each other and make eye contact. And the one who first looks away is considered a loser and leaves the enemy’s territory or obeys the leader, if these are pack animals.
Solar energy passes through the eyes. People with weak solar energy avert their eyes; it is difficult for them to “hold” their gaze. Therefore, the ability to look boldly into the eyes means a lot, especially for men, because a man is a hunter, in all meanings of the word. If you look away, the interlocutor subconsciously perceives this as your uncertainty or fear. Sometimes this can seriously complicate your life.
You need to communicate from the position of “I’m okay, you’re okay.” Therefore, if you see that the interlocutor is unsure of himself and is unpleasant, look into his eyes or at the bridge of his nose, do not irritate him with your gaze.
Respect means adjust!
Listen carefully, without interrupting, without unnecessary fuss, without “disconnecting” from your interlocutor. If you do not follow these rules, you are showing disrespect for the speaker. Keep in mind - this way you can make an enemy.
You need to try to speak with a person on the same emotional wavelength, adapt to the manner of speech, the tone of the speaker, take into account various nuances (speaking speed, etc.), thereby expressing agreement with him.
The person must show an expression of interest. If you tilt your head slightly, this will help you win over the person, since on a subconscious level, your interlocutor will receive a signal that he is being listened to attentively.
Nod heads, accompanied by the word “yes”, implies that you agree with the person, accept what he said. Then the person opens up. But all this should be done very naturally. If you yawn while listening, be sure to cover your mouth and apologize.
Now there are many different schools, trainings, courses where they teach how to listen to a person, what to do, how to manipulate the interlocutor. But all this is done artificially, to achieve selfish goals, but should happen naturally, come from the heart, from inner respect for a person and a sincere desire to help him become happy.
Internally, a person immediately closes off from you if he feels that you want to use him for your own selfish purposes, to get something from him - no matter how wide you open your mouth when you listen to him and no matter what compliments you give him.
I received good lessons in these matters about 15 years ago when I began giving lectures and seminars and distributing books on spiritual topics to businesses. The reaction of the enterprise management was very important in order to gain access to the enterprise itself. And it was often like this - when I came with an internal attitude: “Oh, this is such an important person, so much depends on him, you need to behave as correctly as possible, give something, etc.,” - as a rule, the person closed down, even if he was interested in issues of personal growth and spiritual progress, because he felt that they wanted to use him, to take something from him.
If I went to the meeting, understanding that everything was the will of the Almighty, and my main goal was to give this leader and his subordinates Knowledge, to help them become more harmonious and happy; if internally I was ready to accept any development of events and in any case respect and love everyone, deeply realizing that the behavior of this boss, like everything, depends on God, then miracles happened...
The leader, whom everyone considered an angry, rude and greedy person, organized everything at the highest level, read the book offered to him in a day and began to inspire others to come to the seminar, take books, promised help, paid for the seminars... Many people came and listened attentively, began to read books, noting: “If thanks to you, even our boss has changed so much for the better, then there’s definitely something in it.”
Grasp the hidden meaning of what is said.
But let's get back to the point. The main thing that we must ultimately learn is to be “here and now”, maintaining contact with reality. When we communicate in this way, we give a person love, peace, a resourceful state and a sense of presence. But if we are divorced from reality, we cannot be conductors of love, we cannot hear our interlocutor and we do not understand what he wants. Words carry only 7% of information. Remember this.
Many researchers and psychologists say: “What is said always has a second, hidden meaning.” If, for example, a person does not want to go to work tomorrow, he will never say so openly. He will look for the reason, and very often this happens unconsciously. You need to be able to see precisely the hidden meaning, internal motives and motivations.
If you learn to see hidden motives, you can easily understand a person and help him. This is necessary for harmonious communication.
To hear others, you need to hear yourself.
I would really like that as a result of reading this book, you, dear reader, understand: “ To be able to listen means, first of all, to hear yourself».
If you learn this, the effectiveness of your actions will increase many times over.
Are we listening to ourselves? Can we hear? Do we understand our own desires and subconscious attitudes? These topics have been repeatedly studied by psychologists, and the results of such studies have often been shocking - it turned out that many people are practically unaware of how they speak. This manifests itself in unconscious phrases, for example: “Oh, what a fool I am!”, “I’m always wrong,” etc. But these phrases program the subconscious, and then this person wonders: “Why do others think I’m stupid?”
Remember: all problems begin when a person does not live “here and now,” and the main one of these problems is that he is not aware of his own thoughts and does not hear his inner speech.
If you can't think, you can't listen.
We rarely regret saying too little, but we often regret saying too much.
Jean de La Bruyère
I encourage you to read Robert Charm's book The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari. This is fiction, a bestseller, there are a lot of similar books (The Secret by Rhonda Byrne, etc.), but this one is based on a very important idea: everything starts with a thought. You have not realized the thought, but it can provoke certain words and actions that will cause serious problems. And then you don't understand: "How could I do this?" The worst thing is that a person gets used to living in this state and considers it the norm.
All changes are for the better - both spiritual and material relationship - begin with the fact that we learn to listen to ourselves. If you want to change your life very strongly and very quickly, start living consciously.
PRACTICAL TASK
Do this exercise right now: try to be in the present moment, listen to the sensations of your body, feel how it sits or stands, how it touches the sofa or chair, pay attention to your breathing. Don't let your mind b
Rami Blackt
Triple wisdom (collection)
10 steps to happiness, health and success
I dedicate this book to the memory of my mother, Lyudmila, who, unfortunately, did not live to see its publication.
Mother was my Friend and first Teacher.
This book was largely thanks to her.
At our last meeting, when she had only a short time to live, she asked me to find a way to get rid of suffering and illness.
Then I thought: “Why is she asking?
After all, I’m not a pharmacist or a doctor.”
But later I realized that only true knowledge can save a person from suffering, illness and help him become happy.
Truly happy people hold the earth in their hands and continue the evolution of humanity.
Daniil Andreev
The true measure of the perfection of a human being is his ability to live in constant happiness and, as far as possible, to make others happy.
The biographies of people who have achieved success and succeeded in their business are somewhat similar.
As a child, even out of politeness I could not be called healthy and successful, and feelings of happiness were not so frequent.
I was not distinguished by great health - on the contrary, I was sick a lot.
In the photo where I am about eight years old, you will see a thin boy in shorts, with a big belly, looking rather sickly. Doctors predicted for this child a life full of diseases, including chronic ones, requiring constant use of various chemical drugs in order to somehow support the weak body.
But my parents did not agree with this diagnosis and instilled in me a love of hardening and sports.
If I was lucky in anything, it was with my parents and grandparents. They were truly intelligent people, possessed of worldly experience and a great sense of humor. They invested everything they had into my upbringing.
If you look at my photographs at the age of 16–17, you will already see in them an athletic, fit young man who has forgotten almost all past illnesses. After graduating from the institute, I became a master of sports in all-around, fulfilled several candidate standards, and was also a first-class student in many sports.
But then I discovered that athletic success does not at all guarantee the absence of physical illness.
Later, having learned the laws of a healthy lifestyle, I was able to get rid of diseases much more effectively than with the help of many hours of training.
Over the years, I have come to understand the true meaning of “success.” I closely observed, interacted with, and later often advised people who were widely considered to be very successful. But it was difficult to call them happy. After all, even if they experienced euphoria from their material achievements and financial well-being, this could not last long. And everyone had at least one aspect of life that caused pain, in which not everything was okay. Some had problems with children, others had problems with health, others had problems with family life, relationships with others did not work out, etc., etc. I began to think: what is success? Can a person be considered successful if he is unhappy? Is success always associated with achieving some position and material prosperity?
This book is written on the basis of ancient treatises on health and psychology. The truths they contain have been tested by time and modern scientific research.
First of all, we rely on Ayurveda - medicine given by God many millennia ago. This is medicine in which health, happiness and success are closely interconnected and complement each other. It was believed that harmony of health, happiness and success could not be achieved without a certain philosophical understanding of the world, without deep internal changes.
Until a person learns to set goals correctly, until he understands that his life is a mission and he must live in accordance with it, until he understands the basic law of the universe and takes the first step towards healing, until he understands where energy comes from, until will not get rid of the fear of death and will not develop the correct attitude to the blows of fate until he learns to speak correctly, it is in principle impossible to achieve any health, happiness and success.
We address these and other questions in the book.
In order to understand and implement seemingly simple truths, I needed to undergo severe trials. The life of an army officer, five years of monastic experience in a Hindu ashram. I experienced and was present at the death of people very close to me. I myself had to die from a serious illness, fall in a faulty plane, freeze in a field, in a blizzard, at a temperature of minus 20... I made many painful mistakes.
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About the book “Triple Wisdom” by Rami Blackt
Rami Blackt is a writer, editor, spiritual teacher, and mystic. Promotes a healthy lifestyle, supports various charitable programs, and is the organizer of educational foundations. He knows Vedic astrology well. He became famous for his self-development books, which inspired many people to make positive changes. The author is a personal consultant to many political figures. Film and music industry stars turn to him for advice. He often becomes a guest on various TV shows and radio programs. Over 20 years, Rami has conducted more than 100 trainings and visited over 20 countries. About 1,500 people came to listen to him at the same time. Rami Blackt has written 17 books on self-development, which have been translated into 9 languages. For his work he has received a number of awards in different countries. His books are inspiring and have received many responses. Any work by the author becomes a bestseller and does not stay on store shelves for long. Many people call the book “Triple Wisdom” one of the coach’s highly appreciated works. It has everything you need to change your life and become a successful and spiritually developed person. It received high marks from critics and readers. For many, this book has become a reference book.
Rami Bleckt, in his book Triple Wisdom, expounds the quintessence of wisdom, prudence and unconditional love. In fact, this publication is a collection of several works by a famous author. It includes the following works: “10 steps on the path to happiness, health and success. Secrets of managing your subconscious”, “Alchemy of communication. The art of hearing and being heard" and "Fate and Me." The collection can be called universal, since it will be of interest to every person, regardless of religion and profession. Both an elderly person who will find a huge number of tips on restoring health, and a sales manager working in a large company will be delighted with it.
The book “Triple Wisdom” has everything you need to become healthy and happy at the same time. However, this will still require some effort. If you use the knowledge contained in it, your life will certainly be transformed.
Rami Blackt wrote a really useful book. The work “Triple Wisdom” helped many people change on a spiritual level, their income began to grow, they gained success and improved their health.
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